Advice for Grooms Prior to the Big Day

As the groom, your role in the wedding is basically to show up, kiss the bride, and then hop in the limo, right?
Not quite.

Modern weddings, much like modern marriages, expect the gents to do much more than buy bridal rings, and then just sit on the sidelines while his prospective spouse field-marshals the whole event. To get off on the right foot in your new marriage, take an active role in the planning and production of the big day.

Even though they’re expected to take a greater part in wedding preparations than past generations of grooms did, modern grooms don’t always know exactly what their role is or what they should be responsible for. The following is a list of suggestions for prospective grooms concerning the contribution they can make to one of the most important days of their lives.

• Get on the same page – Communication will play a key part in the success of your marriage, so you may as well begin now. Talk to your bride and determine a list of activities and items each party will bear responsibility for fulfilling. By establishing a specific list of responsibilities and goals, you and your bride will avoid confusion and conflict concerning wedding duties.
• Take charge of honeymoon planning – While floral arrangements and lighting may not be your area of expertise, planning an awesome vacation may be your niche. Volunteer to take charge of the honeymoon preparations to take some of the load off of your bride. Be sure to start planning four to six months in advance so you can secure the best deals and availability for your ideal honeymoon destination. Be sure to cover concerns such as weather, travel arrangements, pet kenneling, house-sitting duties, and other needs related to your honeymoon. On your wedding day, the last thing you want to worry about is making last minute vacation plan fixes.
• Serve as the majordomo – No matter how active your role in the wedding, your bride is going to have a lot on her plate. Serving as the gatekeeper for access can greatly help to reduce her stress. Take charge of the communications between your bride and the families, as well as the vendors helping with the wedding. Answer questions with solutions you and your bride have predetermined, and forward pressing questions to her. Filter out pestering questions and annoyances, allowing your bride to stay focused on planning the event.
• Take charge of your groomsmen – Know your groomsmen and what they’re capable of handling. Put the more dependable ones in charge of duties such as ferrying guests from the airport, picking up supplies, etc. Have your less responsible friends take charge of the more immediate physical labor, such as setting up tables, or the more social aspects of the event. Pick the right man for the right job and your big day will go smoothly.
• Handle the men’s attire – Take some of the burden off your bride by handling all aspects of your groomsmen’s attire, from helping to select tuxes, to filling them in on the details concerning sizing, fitting and picking up their wedding clothes. Listen carefully to what your tux provider has to say – they’ll have great advice on how to keep everything neat and ready for the wedding.
• Handle the odd jobs – Whether it’s picking up men’s wedding bands from the store, buying ice, or setting up the lights, when a task comes up, take it. You’ll impress your bride with your willingness to go the extra mile, and running errands will get you away from the hubbub for a few minutes, allowing you to decompress a little.
• Pay attention during the dress rehearsal – Let’s face it; there’s plenty of things you’d rather be doing than listening to the planner go into excruciating detail about who should walk where and when. Knowing the game plan for the wedding will help it go much more smoothly, so be sure to pay close attention to instructions concerning what you and your groomsmen should do during the big event.
• Provide accountability – With all the excitement and pressure from friends and various family members, it’s easy for brides and grooms to get carried away and completely blow through their wedding budget. Grooms can help hold the line on spending by being active in the budgeting process and insisting that the event stay within budget. When brides and grooms support each other’s decisions, staying on budget becomes a much easier task.
• Provide support – More than anything, your job as a groom is to provide support for your bride as she prepares for one of the most important days of her life. Listen to her when she’s discussing a problem, and bear with her when she’s frustrated with the various pressures involved with wedding planning. It will all be worth it when you walk her down the aisle.
• Step back – Knowing when to hold your peace is a key ingredient for a successful marriage. During the wedding planning process, you’ll likely need to compromise on some issues. Keep the big picture in mind when you’re considering raising an objection, and avoid conflict where possible.

Weddings  – A Major Investment

According to Weddingstats.org, clergy and other officiants conduct nearly 2.6 million weddings each year. The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is between $28,000 and $30,000. Weddings represent a huge investment of time, effort, emotion, and money for couples. That’s why it’s so important to get it right.

Good planning and collaboration between brides and grooms can reduce stress and cut some of the costs involved with staging a classy, memorable wedding. Whether you’re getting married at the courthouse, on a cruise ship, or at a cathedral, the Diamond Vault can help with one critical aspect of the ceremony – the wedding rings. Located in Scottsdale, Arizona, the Diamond Vault is the area’s premier dealer of bridal rings, engagement rings, men’s wedding bands, and other diamond jewelry. The master jewelers at Diamond Vault know jewelry and can help customers find just the right rings for their wedding day.

Sources:

http://www.weddingstats.org/average-cost-of-a-wedding.html

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